The Unwritten Sexual Bargain

Sexuality by Adam on 2009-04-22 05:24

“It can be very difficult for a woman to accept sexual rejection. Even the temporary rebuff can feel like a strike at the core of our femininity. Hey, aren’t men supposed to always want it, while we imperiously decide whether to grant their petition?

For centuries, women otherwise subject to the whims of men have drawn power from controlling an artificially created shortage. We have reinforced the myth that men always want what we could live without. Our unwritten bargain has been, “Men, be really nice to us and we will give you sex.” Withdrawal from this position is painful. Revising our sexual attitudes with our male friends is something we can suffer through together if we support rather than combat each other.”

From Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

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